Signs That You're in a Toxic Relationship and What to Do About It

By Dr. Ritu Bansal•Updated April 2026•2 min read

Reviewed by

Dr. Ritu Bansal · MA (Psychology), M.Phil (Clinical Psychology)

Do you often feel drained, unheard, or belittled in your relationship? You're not alone. Many Indian women struggle with toxic partnerships, feeling trapped and unsure of how to break free. The constant stress and anxiety can be overwhelming, making you question your own worth. But today, take a deep breath and acknowledge the pain - it's time to recognize the signs and take control of your life.

Community Advice Disclaimer: This guide is based on community experiences and lifestyle advice. It is not a substitute for professional medical, psychological, or legal advice. Always consult a qualified healthcare provider for personal diagnoses or treatments.

What You'll Need

courage
support system
self-reflection

Recognize the Red Flags

Toxic relationships often involve emotional manipulation, gaslighting, or constant criticism. Be honest with yourself - are you consistently feeling unhappy, anxious, or fearful around your partner? Make a list of the incidents that have made you feel this way, and pay attention to any patterns or cycles of abuse.

Keep a private journal to track your feelings and events

Keep in mind: Be cautious of your partner's reaction if they discover your journal

Seek Support and Guidance

Reach out to trusted friends, family, or a professional counselor who can provide you with a safe and non-judgmental space to discuss your feelings. They can help you develop a plan to leave the relationship or improve it, if possible. Don't be afraid to ask for help - you deserve to be supported and heard.

Worth knowing: Look for online support groups or helplines, such as the National Commission for Women's helpline

Be careful when sharing your situation with someone who may be in close contact with your partner

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Prioritize Self-Care and Safety

Focus on rebuilding your self-esteem and taking care of your physical and emotional well-being. Engage in activities that bring you joy, practice self-compassion, and create a safety plan, including a safe place to stay, financial support, and a network of trusted contacts.

Start small by doing one thing you love each day, like reading or taking a walk

Keep in mind: Be prepared for potential backlash or escalation from your partner when you start prioritizing your own needs

Step 4

Take Action and Set Boundaries

Once you've sought support and prioritized your self-care, it's time to set clear boundaries with your partner. Communicate your needs and expectations clearly, and be firm in your resolve. Remember, you deserve to be treated with respect and kindness - don't settle for anything less.

Practice assertive communication by using 'I' statements instead of 'you' statements

Be prepared for your partner to resist or push back against your new boundaries

Create a New Future

Leaving a toxic relationship can be scary, but it's often the first step towards a brighter, healthier future. Take your time to heal, reflect on your experiences, and focus on rebuilding your life. You are strong, capable, and deserving of love and happiness.

Celebrate your small wins and accomplishments along the way

Keep in mind: Be patient with yourself and allow time for healing and growth

PurpleGirl Insight

"Remember, your worth isn't defined by your relationship, and seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness."

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Frequently Asked Questions

What are the signs of a toxic relationship?

Signs of a toxic relationship include emotional manipulation, gaslighting, constant criticism, and feelings of anxiety, fear, or dread. If you're consistently feeling unhappy or unfulfilled in your relationship, it may be time to re-evaluate and seek support.

How do I leave a toxic relationship?

Leaving a toxic relationship requires careful planning, support, and self-care. Start by seeking help from trusted friends, family, or a professional counselor, and create a safety plan that includes a safe place to stay, financial support, and a network of trusted contacts. Prioritize your physical and emotional well-being, and take small steps towards rebuilding your life.

Can a toxic relationship be saved?

While it's possible for a toxic relationship to improve, it often requires significant effort and commitment from both partners. If you're unsure about the health of your relationship, seek guidance from a professional counselor who can help you navigate the situation and develop a plan to address any underlying issues.

Reviewed & Verified By

Dr. Ritu Bansal

MA (Psychology), M.Phil (Clinical Psychology)

Licensed Counsellor & Psychotherapist

Dr. Ritu Bansal ensures that all information provided in this guide aligns with the latest medical, legal, and professional standards in India. PurpleGirl Media relies on credentialed experts to provide a safe, accurate space for women.

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