Apne Vivaah Mein Ek Ladai Ke Baad Bhavnatmak Niji Sambandh Kaise Banayein
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Aap apne mirror ke saamne khade hain, apni aankhon mein aankhen daal rahe hain, aur apne seene mein woh bhaari, khaali dard mehsoos kar rahe hain. Ghar shaant hai—bahut shaant—and aap aur aapke partner ke beech ki shaanti, aapke beech hue jhagde se zyada teez hai. Aap soch rahe hain ki yeh aapke beech ki deewar kabhi tootegi, ya aap ek hi chhat ke neeche ajnabi ban kar rehne wale hain. Ek gahra saans lein, didi. Har jodi isse guzarti hai. Yeh doori iska matlab nahi ki aapka pyaar khatam ho gaya hai; iska matlab hai ki use thoda sa dhyaan dena padega.
What You'll Need
- Ek shaant dil
- Suniye ke liye ichchha
- Maafi maangne ki vinamrata
- Ek shaant, niji jagah
- Dhairya
Baatcheet shuru karne se pehle shaant ho jaiye
Yeh bahut bhayankar lagta hai ki aap cheezon ko 'theek' karne ki koshish karte hain jab aapka dil abhi bhi daud raha hai aur aapka dimaag gussa mein hai. Mat kijiye. Apne aap ko kam se kam ek ghante ka samay dein apne nervous system ko shaant karne ke liye. Paani piyein, chehre ko dho lein, ya ek chhoti si walk par chale jaayein. Aap tab tak connection nahi bana sakte jab aapka dimaag 'defense mode' mein hai.
Ek 'I' statement se shuru kijiye
Jab aap antim baatcheet karte hain, to 'You' vaakyon ka upyog karne se bachein jaise ki 'You hamesha yeh karte hain' ya 'You ne mujhe aisa mehsoos karaya'. 'I' statements ka upyog kijiye. Kahin, 'Main bahut dukhi mehsoos kiya jab hum ladte the kyunki main hamein pyaar karta hoon,' ya 'Main akela mehsoos kiya jab hum baat karne band kar diye.' Isse baatcheet ko ek hamla se ek saajha mehsoos mein badal deti hai.
Purane ladaiyon ko na uthaiye jo mahino ya saalon purani hain. Is vishesh ghatna par dhyaan dein.
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Bolne se zyada suniye
Jab aap apne mehsoos ko saajha karte hain, to apne partner ko bhi apne mehsoos ko saajha karne ke liye aamantrit kijiye. Aur yeh hai mushkil hissa: sirf suniye. Unhein theek karna ya apne aap ko bachaane ke liye beech mein mat todiye. Sirf unke dard ko svikar kijiye aur kahein, 'Main sun raha hoon ki aapko anjaani mehsoos hua, aur mujhe aafsoos hai ki yeh hua.' Svikriti todde hue bandhan ke liye sabse tez chipkau hai.
Ek chhoti 'punar-milan' rasam banaiye
Hawa saaf ho jane ke baad, sirf kaam mein wapas mat chaliye. Ek chhoti si cheez kijiye apne bandhan ko dobara sthapit karne ke liye. Yeh aap dono ke liye chai banana ho sakta hai, ek mazakiya video saath mein dekhna, ya sirf 10 minute ke liye sofa par baithna bina phone ke. Apne aap ko yaad dilaiye ki aap ek team hain, dushman nahi.
Yadi aap bhavnatmak roop se taiyar nahi hain, to sharirik niji sambandh mat dabaiye. Pehle bhavnatmak suraksha shuru kijiye.
"Sachcha niji sambandh is baat ka nahi hai ki aap kabhi ladte nahi; yeh is baat ka hai ki aap kitni jaldi aur daya se phir se judne ka faisla karte hain jab toofan guzar jaata hai."
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