Kemon Bhabe Jani Jabe Jekhane Apnar Shami Gaslighting Korche (Ebong Ki Korben)
Reviewed by
Dr. Ritu Bansal · MA (Psychology), M.Phil (Clinical Psychology)
Chinta korun, apni apnar shami'r shathe ekta shadharon kotha bolchhen, jeta apnar moner modhye chinta toiri koreche, kintu ekhane hi shuru hoye jachhe ekta notun kotha. Anek shomoy, shami bolte thake, 'Tomra to beshi chinta korcho,' ba 'Eita to hoyni.' Ekhane apnar moner bhabna o smriti gulo kemon bhabe poriborton hoye jachhe, seta niye chinta korte hobe. Aro bhalo bhabe bujhte hole, gaslighting ki, seta bujhte hobe, ebong kibhabe seita shomadhan korte hoy, seta jante hobe. Ei lekhate, amra kotha bolbo kibhabe apni gaslighting ke chinte parben ebong kibhabe apnar shami'r shathe kotha bolte parben.
What You'll Need
- Patrika
- Notebook
- Pen
- Smartphone
- Bhalo Shomoy
Gaslighting er Lakkhon Chinite Hobe
Gaslighting chinite parle, apnar obostha niye chinta korte parben. Kichu lakkhon ache, jemon apnar bhabona niye chhoto kotha bola, apnar smritigulo niye shomoy shomoy proshno kora, ba kothagulo bhul bhabhe uposthapito kora. Dhaka ba Kolkata'r majhe, onek shomoy dekha jaye, shami bolte pare, 'Eita to hoyni, tumi bhul bolcho,' jekhane apni jani, eita hoyeche. Ekhane apnar bhabna gulo kemon bhabe porishkar hote hobe, seta bujhte hobe. Aro bhalo bhabe bujhte hole, apnar kotha r shathe apnar shami kibhabe kotha bolche, seta dekha dorkar.
Apnar Bhabona Gulo Ke Bishwas Korun
Jodi apni mone koren je kichu thik nei, tahole seta niye chinta kora dorkar. Apnar bhabona shotti, eita mone rakha khub dorkar. Shami jodi alpo bhabe bolte thake, 'Tomar katha shune amake ki mone hoy?' tahole bujhte hobe, se bhul kotha bolche. Apni jodi mone koren je kichu bhul hoyeche, taile seta niye kotha bolte hobe. Kolkata ba Dhaka'r kono ekta bhalo restaurant'e jete jete, jodi apni anek shomoy bholi, 'Ami to bhuli nai,' tahole shami bolte pare, 'Tumi to hamesha bhul bolcho.' Ekhane apnar bhabona gulo ke sotti bhabe mone rakhun, jeta shami er kotha bhul bhabe uposthapito korche.
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Sokol Kichu Likhe Rakhun
Jodi apni gaslighting er shikkha peye thaken, tahole sob kichu likhe rakhte hobe. Notebook ba smartphone use kore, jekhane apni din er ghotonagulo likhte paren. Jemon, 'Aj shami bollo, eita hoyni,' ba 'Kal amake kibhabe chinta korte bollo,' eirokom kotha gulo likhun. Ekhane, apni jodi dekhen, poroborti din e se kotha bhule geche, tahole apni nijeke bolte parben, 'Kintu tumi to aita bolchhile.' Eita apnar mone rakha ekta bhalo upay hobe, jekhane apni apnar smriti ke porishkar rakhte parben. Kolkata ba Dhaka'r shohor e onek shomoy dekha jaye, jekhane shami'r shathe kotha bolte giye, apni bhule jete paren, kintu likhe rakha hoile, seta sahaj hobe.
Sopno Saja Kothabarta Korun Ebong Shimanabodh Korun
Jokhon apni gaslighting er lakkhon chinte parben, tokhon seta niye kotha bolte hobe. Apnar shami ke bolte paren, 'Ami eibhabe feel kori, eita ki thik?' Shimanabodh er kotha bolte, apni bhabe dekhte paren, 'Ami eita chaite pari na.' Jodi shami defensive hoye jaye, tahole apni shanti rakhun. Kotha bolte giye, jodi apnar mone hoy, 'Se to kothao jachhe,' tahole apni bhul bhabe bhabben na. Dhaka ba Kolkata'r shohore, shami ke bhalo bhabe bujhte hole, apnar kotha shune, se kemon bhabe react korche, seta dekha dorkar.
Professional Shahayata Nite Bhulben Na
Jodi apnar obostha khub bhalo na hoy, tahole mental health professional er shathe kotha bolte bhulben na. Anek shomoy, amra bhabi je amader shomossa shudhu amader biparite, kintu ekta professional er shathe kotha bolle, onek shomoy amra bujhte pari je amader kotha shunche. Kolkata ba Dhaka'r onek clinic ache, sekhane apni jete paren. Ekhane, apni ekta safe space paben, ja apnar moner bhabna gulo ke porishkar korte sahajjo korbe. Apni jodi mone koren, 'Kothao bhul hoyeche,' tahole ekta professional er shathe kotha bolte bhulben na.
"Jodi apni mone koren je apnar shami gaslighting korche, tahole prothomoto sotti ke chinte hobe, apnar bhabona gulo ke shorashori bolte hobe."
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